Job Frederick Pingree, Jr.

December 3, 1932 ~ February 21, 2021

Job Frederick Pingree, Jr., known as Toby; respected accountant and financial advisor; devoted fan of the St. Louis Cardinals and Boston Celtics; lifelong lover of ideas, questions, and critical inquiry; fitness and exercise enthusiast; faithful and joyous member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (formerly the Mormon Church); beloved son, brother, husband, father, uncle, grandfather, and great-grandfather; died Sunday morning, February 21, 2021, at the end of a life well lived.

Toby was born on December 3, 1932, in Salt Lake City, Utah, to Job Frederick “Fritz” Pingree and Marjorie Cannon Pingree. Toby adored his siblings: older sister Pat and younger brothers George and John. Toby and George were known to engage in mischief, and Toby’s impish spirit never faded, although it took more mature forms as he aged.

Young Toby had a severe stutter and succeeded in overcoming it, although it would emerge on occasion throughout his life, especially when conveying thoughts and ideas about which he was passionate. This struggle underscored the honesty and humanity of his communication and lent a rough eloquence that reached and touched many throughout his life.

Toby skipped a grade in both elementary and middle school, so he entered Salt Lake’s West High School unusually young and insecure. Most of his friends attended the more prestigious East High School, but Toby’s experience at West changed his life. There he met Marion D. “Duff” Hanks, his seminary teacher and later a General Authority in the Church. Hanks’ devotion to honest inquiry, tolerance, and compassion deeply shaped Toby’s values and approach to people.

Toby entered the University of Utah at age 16. He became a member of the Pi Kappa Alpha fraternity, where he made friendships that would endure for life. Institute classes taught by Lowell Bennion deepened his commitments to humanitarian service, truth and compassion, and gave him another lifelong mentor.

At 19, Toby graduated from the University of Utah and was called to serve a mission for the Church in Central America. Before leaving, he became an Eagle Scout, fulfilling a long-delayed promise to his mother. As most of his friends were called to serve in more established missions in Europe, Toby’s years in the less developed Central American Mission echoed his experience at West High.

Toby’s mission had a seminal impact on his life. Battling Yellow Fever and struggling to learn Spanish in his first year, he was called by mission president Gordon Romney to serve as his assistant, a role that Toby held for the last 18 months of his 30-month mission. Working without a companion and with many liberties that a “frontier” mission allowed, Toby traveled widely throughout Central America and developed an abiding love for the people there. He relished speaking Spanish throughout his life; he engaged every waiter in Mexican restaurants, tutored Latinx immigrant children and, in his final months, suffering from dementia, he often spoke only in Spanish.

After his mission, Toby joined the Air Force ROTC and was sent to Bitburg, Germany to serve as an officer. More important, in Germany he met Phyllis Lee Burbidge, a Salt Lake native living abroad there.

After their first date, Toby sent Phyllis a copy of Time magazine and asked that she be ready to be quizzed on its contents. Despite this decidedly unromantic gesture, Phyllis continued her courtship with Toby until returning to Salt Lake in late 1957. Toby returned in early 1958, and after both had played the field for a few months, they resumed their courtship and were married in the Salt Lake City Temple on August 20, 1958.

Their honeymoon consisted of a brief visit to Zion’s, Bryce, and Grand Canyon National Parks, after which they drove their VW Bug directly to Cambridge, Massachusetts, where Toby had been admitted to the Harvard Business School. In Cambridge, Toby became a fan of Bill Russell’s dynastic Celtics, a devotion he passed on to his children. Toby and Phyllis welcomed their first child, Tim, in June 1959. The family of three returned to Salt Lake in 1960, where Toby worked for Hogel & Company as a financial analyst. Their second and third children, identical twins Geoff and Greg, were born in September 1960.

In 1962, Toby took a job with Granville Phillips, a vacuum technology company in Boulder, Colorado. There, their fourth child, Allison, was born in December 1962, and their fifth, Matt, in March 1967. Toby loved helping build a new chapel for the Boulder 1st Ward, an endeavor that required the time, money, and effort of the community of members. Later in life he often expressed regret that the building of chapels was no longer undertaken by local members; for Toby, the sacrifice and cooperation involved was what Jesus’ church was all about. While in Boulder, Toby struggled with the Church’s Temple ban on people of African descent. He was outspoken in his belief that the policy was unjust, leading one member of the high council on which he served to call (unsuccessfully) for Toby’s excommunication. Throughout his life, he manifested this concern for equality within the church he loved, first with race, then the role of women, and later, the Church’s policies on homosexuality.

The family moved to Ithaca, New York in 1969, where Toby became the chief financial officer of the Ithaca Gun Company. Toby and Phyllis welcomed their sixth and final child, Mark, in April 1971. Toby served as bishop of the Ithaca Ward, comprised of Cornell University students and faculty as well as rural farmers. The Pingrees lived in a house adjacent to the Cornell campus and experienced the 1960s right away, with a co-ed hippy co-op across the street, the armed takeover of the student union building by Black students protesting racial injustice a few blocks away, and the Woodstock music festival three hours to the southeast.

In 1972, Toby took a job as CFO at General Recreation, an outdoor sporting equipment company in Albuquerque, New Mexico. There, Toby served as bishop of the Albuquerque 5th Ward, whose members included some rich and many poor. He decided that involving members in a hands-on experience to earn money for a new chapel would foster greater unity and enthusiasm, so he took up one member’s suggestion that the ward gather regularly to assemble silver beaded necklaces for a local jewelry company. The project was successful beyond expectation, bringing needed funds to the ward and, more important, fostering pride and unity among its members.

In 1974, General Recreation experienced financial difficulties, and the CEO asked Toby to meet with certain banks in New York to secure loans for the company’s survival. Toby agreed, but when the CEO insisted that Toby misrepresent the value of the company’s assets in those meetings, Toby refused, and he was fired. This was a difficult time, as it was the first real setback in Toby’s business career and forced him to deal with the challenge of unemployment. Within a few months he moved the family to Walnut Creek, California, where he joined Billeter, Halversen & Company, a tax preparation and financial advising firm founded by his close cousin and childhood neighbor, Bud Billeter.

The Pingrees lived happily in Walnut Creek from 1974 to 1997. Toby’s business flourished, all six children graduated from high school, and everyone made dear friends, both in the Ygnacio Valley Ward and in the broader community. In 1982, Toby and Phyllis were called to preside over the Quito, Ecuador Mission of the Church. Toby was thrilled to return to Latin America to do missionary work, something he had hoped for since his experience there as a young man. Toby and Phyllis exemplified the mission motto to be “anxiously engaged in a good cause” in how they mentored, challenged, inspired and loved the hundreds of missionaries who served with them. Toby quietly created a new role for sister missionaries to serve as Assistants to the President, joining their male counterparts in leading peers.

After returning to Walnut Creek in 1985, Toby resumed work at what was now Billeter, Pingree & Company. He also served as bishop for a third time, presiding over the Walnut Creek Young Single Adults Ward, where he cherished another opportunity to mentor young people at crucial crossroads in their lives. Over the years, the Pingree children left home to pursue educational, professional, and family paths of their own. But 290 Firestone Drive remained an important touchstone and gathering place for family and friends.

In 1997, Toby and Phyllis returned to their family roots in Salt Lake City to help their aging mothers, but Toby’s love of things entrepreneurial continued well after he “retired” from what had become Pingree, Wirig, Doll & Company. He worked part-time for Squire & Company, an accounting and financial advisory firm, and partnered with a former missionary to launch Compliance Software.

Though a Utahn through and through, Toby was a citizen of the world. He loved to travel and was proud to have visited every continent, one of the last being Antarctica on a trip aboard the National Geographic Explorer. Known for his willingness to honestly and civilly speak his mind, no matter the occasion, Toby celebrated cultural diversity and was genuinely curious to know people of different religious and political convictions. His many friends came from all walks of life.

Toby’s commitment to both honest inquiry and genuine community continued as he provided financial leadership and support to the Sunstone Foundation at a critical time and enthusiastically attended and presented at annual Sunstone Symposia. He cherished such candid explorations of faith and religion; he was an original subscriber to Dialogue: A Journal of Mormon Thought, and he and Phyllis participated in Sunday night study groups with fellow ward members wherever they lived. Toby was unflinching in exploring the most difficult questions of belief and discipleship, profoundly inspired by the example of Church General Authority Hugh B. Brown. For Toby, authentic religious commitment required the ongoing questioning of one’s own beliefs; as Brown remarked, “the honest investigator must be prepared to follow wherever the search of truth may lead.”

In Salt Lake, Toby continued and even increased his lifelong devotion to sports and physical fitness. Once asked why he was so committed to exercise, he unhesitatingly replied, “because I don’t want to be under-utilized,” a term his children quickly added to their arsenal of affectionate invocations of him. Toby’s mother had often proudly repeated words of praise spoken at her husband’s funeral that “there never was a lazy Pingree.”

As a missionary, Toby and his companions defeated the Guatemalan National Team in basketball, which led the locals to dub him “La Palmera Humana” (the human palm tree). He was part of an All-Church basketball team in Boulder, where, before its time, he developed his signature “baby hook shot.” In Boulder he also hiked Pike’s Peak and daily rode his bike to work. In Albuquerque he organized and participated in running races with ward members. In Walnut Creek, after tearing his ACL playing church basketball, he nevertheless completed a triathlon, walking instead of running the final 10 kilometers. He biked Mount Diablo regularly with his pal Vince Wood. He also joined the Walnut Creek Masters, with whom he swam each morning, a beloved ritual that commenced well before dawn during tax season. And in Utah, Toby took up spinning at the Salt Lake City Sports Complex, churning away as elder cyclist in a tight-knit group until he was 87. Over the years he coached many youth basketball teams, and he coached each of his sons multiple times in basketball and baseball.

As Toby’s mobility decreased, he doggedly pushed himself to use a walker and train at the gym, supported by his loyal friend and assistant, Denis Thurgood, until just a few months ago. Tragically, Toby’s final decline timed exactly with the COVID pandemic, leaving him unable to be hugged, sung to, or comforted in person by his wife and family during his last six months. Toby’s final weeks, days and hours were nonetheless eased by the excellent care of the staff at the Auberge at Aspen Park.

Toby was fiercely devoted to his children and showed it through his lifelong generosity and his unconditional support for their choices and beliefs, however difficult that may have been. Regardless of how impractical some of his children’s professional choices seemed to him, he nonetheless took great interest in, supported, and valued their decisions and accomplishments. And while his heart yearned for all of his children to embrace the Church as lovingly and completely as he did, he sought to understand and respect their decisions to pursue their own truths.

Toby also adored his children-in-law, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren, and he and Phyllis traveled countless miles to be with them at important moments. In every visit, he involved them in fixing, building, or completing whatever was needed. And he loved to tell them the stories that had captured his own imagination as a child.

Toby cherished Phyllis, who smoothed his rough edges, kept house and raised children with extraordinary poise and patience through all the family’s relocations, supported him in all of his church callings and professional changes, and supplied him with a never-ending banquet of delicious food. Toby knew that with Phyllis, he was “marrying up,” and he became a more complete man, emotionally and spiritually, for having acted wisely in making the most important decision of his life.

While no life can be summarized in words alone, Toby’s favorite hymn, “A Poor Wayfaring Man of Grief,” and the passage from 1 Corinthians 13 that he and Phyllis memorized during their courtship (“Charity suffereth long, and is kind…”) embody the values he held and tried to live by. Through his hard work, generosity, and unconditional support for his wife and children, he made a million wonderful things possible, and we will always be grateful.

Funeral services for Toby will be held Friday, February 26, at 11am.

You may view the recorded services at the link below:
https://us02web.zoom.us/rec/share/4xVKdZWE6JsAalconqD1QYjNqCGPU4tf028gvmvbXudDA0MGFXDKXwdE_q4Y2Axm.sIruz2sPo6A_FtHI

In lieu of flowers, donations in Toby’s honor can be made to:
● Doctors Without Borders (https://www.doctorswithoutborders.org/)
● The Sunstone Foundation (https://sunstonemagazine.com/)
● The Guatemalan Foundation (guatemalanfoundation.org)



Guestbook/Condolences

I am so sorry that I learn of this loss so late. I am ever grateful for the family I am associated with. I met Toby Pingree when attending Grace Kirkham Burbidge's funeral. One might think I would recall the Kirkham relations I met! After reading the tribute I believe anyone would have remembered him. However we became associated, I know the greater family has had a loss. Those of you nearer, who see the empty chair, miss the cheerful response, please believe you are held dearly just now. You are in my deepest remembrances.

- Ked Kirkham
What a beautiful tribute to a great man. I know all six of his children (especially Tim) and some of the grandchildren. It's no wonder they turned out so wonderful with such great parents. My sympathies.

- Brett Matheson
Phyllis. My deepest sympathy to you and yours in this hour of sorrow; Toby was an outstanding person and one that brought honor to himself, his profession and to the Church. Blessed be his memory. We Ensign Warner’s had much to honor. My best to you and yours. ricardo young

- Richard w young
Pingree Family, I’m so sorry to hear about the passing of Toby Pingree. He is an amazing person. Your family will be in my prayers. Thank you for sharing the Funeral on the internet. I enjoyed hearing all the stories about Toby.

- Cheryl Bennion Norvell
So sorry to hear of brother Pingree‘s passing. I remember him as a tall, kind, generous and dedicated member of the church. My best wishes to his wife phyllis.

- Jeannie Prosser Bigham
Alison, thank you for including me in your announcement about Toby's passing. I remember our common threads--Walnut Creek/Bay Area, Lorenzo Hoopes. I don't know how it got here so fast, but I'm now 85 and less a willing traveler. Just a few years ago, Costa Rica was such an adventure. I remember Phyllis, your mom, and send my affection and condolences to your entire family from Santa Fe.

- Noreen Quan
My deepest condolences to you and your family ,I do remember him may he be in Peace and Glory .Maria.

- Maria Germain
Sis. Pingree, You and Pres. have really blessed my life. I will never forget the first few weeks of my mission. I did not come prepared with proper skirts and you graciously took me into your room and shared with me a few skirts that would get me through the first weeks until my family was able to send me the proper attire. You were so kind and made me feel comfortable. You and Pres. always made each of us feel like family. You always remembered to ask about my parents who were also serving a mission at the time. I knew that I could always talk to either of you about anything. Pres. always took time to make a personal comment on every weekly report, which let us know that we were much more than a number. My mission really helped me to grow and mature. Please know that I appreciate all you sacrificed for us missionaries. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I pray that your family will have great Peace at this difficult time. Love LaRue Wray (Hermana Worthen)

- LaRue Worthen Wray
What a great tribute to a great man. It was wonderful to see the Pingree family after all these years. When I saw Tim at that YV reunion years ago, I had not seen Tim in about 20 years and he was about the same age has Toby was when I saw him last. So yes, Tim was more like Toby then than like Tim as I remembered. With is a great thing. Thank you Pingree family for lending your dad to others. My Dad was a great man in his own way, but with 8 kids and other assignments, he played a different roll. He did not have the temperament , patients or desire to spend much time with teenage boys. My friends dads filled that spot. Bro. Pingree, Bro. Ellenburg, Bro Hutchens, Bro Bay, Bro. Spotts, Guymon, Adams and others, all were teachers, advisor, coaches and made sure I had way to games, practices and comp outs. I do know I made their assignments challenging and miserable at times. They opened their homes to me. To me it is a great complement to see my buddies turn into their dads whom I love. They all made my life better and showed me what I could become if I chose to. We are our fathers children and are endowed with their DNA. We are children of God and hopefully we are learning the easy and hard lessons needed to become like Them. May you all find peace and comfort in knowing Toby had a plan and followed it. He is were he not only hoped to be, but lived his like to get there.

- Thomas R. Bench
Ever since Toby and Mary ruled the roost as class officers at the U, the Pingrees have been integral to Bradford happiness for nearly 70 years. Toby and Mary's next generation -- inclusive of Tim-Bob, Scooter, Skeeter, Al-Gal, Skip, Squirrel, Jones, and their respective (and sometimes shifting) "significant others", etc. -- have all entwined in one form or another in significant, often hilarious, and enriching ways at BYU, the Spain Madrid Mission, DC/Virginia, and ad infinitum. Toby's multifaceted legacy beautifully and eternally lives on in his children, grandchildren and great-children as we all look forward to meeting up again on the other side. xoxoxo, the Bradford Clan

- Steve, Jane, Mary, etc., Bradford
Toby is a spiritual warrior, staying strong and committed to Christ, especially as he fought for equality for all, just as Christ did. He is a great example to our family and we have been well-loved by Toby and Phyllis all these years. All our love, Sid & Lisa Thornton family

- Lisa & Sid Thornton
We admired Toby, his stimulating personality and student of many aspects of life, including the Gospel of Jesus Christ. He had thought provoking questions and extensive knowledge of the world about him. We valued his friendship. He will be greatly missed. Ned and Alene Mangelson

- Ned Mangelson
Dear Sister Pingree and family, What a beautiful service and celebration of Dear President Pingree (Toby’s) life here in mortality! I have praying since this past Sunday upon hearing of Toby’s passing for you all to feel comfort and God’s love for you. Thank you for your sacrifice of your parents as President and Sister Pingree! The influence, example and love for me was immense and has had a profound eternal impact upon me, my marriage, as a husband and father, son, grandfather and ecclesiastical leader. Oh how I love Toby! I speak often of dear President and Sister Pingree to my wife and children. God be with you and may you continue to feel peace and comfort. Your brother in Christ. Kevin Burton

- Kevin Burton
We have relived so many memories in listening to the funeral service, after reading the very thoughtful and complete tribute in his obituary. The Pingree family were so influential in our early married life in Walnut Creek. Toby’s early morning seminary class was relished by our sons, who loved his willingness to discuss, debate and honor opinions and questions of young people. Toby and Phyllis had a vibrant loving relationship, with lots of sparks, laughs and most of all, love, that we wanted to emulate. The six kids were amazing examples of developing their many talents and achieving great successes while in their Northgate High School years. I remember sharing tears with Toby in Tilden Park at a Father’s and Son’s outing when we heard about the priesthood for all God’s sons. Thanks for your example to so many. Don and Marsha

- Don and Marsha Livingstone
Dear Phyllis and Family, Our love and condolences goes out to you at this time. We were able to watch the funeral proceedings and they were great. It caused us to reflect upon our relationship with you in earlier years and seeing you, Phyllis, at DUP meetings (for which I am grateful). You have a wonderful family. May you take joy in your memories of the marvelous times you have shared as a family; and more particularly or your knowledge of the Lord's great eternal plan. With love and sympathy, Sherman and Karm Rae Sheffield

- Karma Rae Sheffield
I haven't seen Toby for almost 20 years now, I think since Gene England's funeral. That's fitting, since Toby and Gene had a huge effect on me, both of them showing utter devotion to the truth—both digging for it and staying faithful to it once found. As a teenager in Walnut Creek, I always felt I could talk to Toby, and he would hear it without judging, as Greg said. He talked to God in the same way, not expecting to be judged, and his voice when he prayed out loud was something that everyone who has heard it remembers, at the same time prayer and loving conversation. There was no questioning Toby's love for his family and for whoever was talking to him. What a wonderful man.

- Colin Bay
Sister Pingree & Family, I was sorry to hear of Bishop Pingree’s passing and wanted to express my gratitude for his sweetness, support, and love. Bishop Pingree will always have a tender place in my heart. Thank you for sharing him with us. He was a blessing to the Walnut Creek Third ward. I can’t share the many stores because there truly are too many.

- Sherrie Bezas
Mis mas sinceras y sentidas condolencias para Mamá Pingree y para toda la familia, que Dios les bendiga con la fortaleza que necesitan en este momento tan amargo y difícil, siempre los llevo en mi mente y en mi corazón, todas las experiencias vividas en el tiempo de mi misión son un tesoro invaluable, los quiero mucho.

- Rodolfo Iván Díaz Cortéz
Querido Geoff, siento mucho la muerte de tu padre. Leo en su biografía que ha sido una persona magnífica y con una vida pkena. Eso consuela mucho cuando perdemos a los seres queridos. Un abrazo muy fuerte para ti y tu familia.

- Marga lobo margalobo49
Our Condolences, from everyone here at Squire. What an amazing man. I worked with Toby and consider him a true friend and mentor. He lived a great life with an amazing wife and family. We will miss him! What a great obituary to honor a great man. Thank you. So many more things I learned about this amazing man.

- Wayne Barben
Desde Esmeraldas-Ecuador envío mis condolencias a la hermana Phyllis Pingree y a toda su familia. Conocí a Frederick Pingree en julio de 1982 cuando llegó a Esmeraldas-Ecuador como presidente de la Misión Ecuador Quito. En aquel tiempo yo era un joven presidente de Rama y la primera impresión que tuve de él fue: "es un presidente norteamericano-latino", pues, su amistad y amor hacia nuestra gente era muy expresiva. Su liderazgo dejó una huella en la vida de los misioneros, líderes y miembros de nuestra ciudad, una huella que aún hoy es de mucho significado en nosotros.

- Omar Intriago Argandoña
Apreciada Familia. Pingree les envío mis más sentidas condolencias nunca olvidaré las enseñanzas del Presidente y su adorada esposa, el ha sido una influencia para muchos jóvenes que ahora estamos en el camino del bien, se que nos volveremos a ver y que este plan de Salvación es un bálsamo para todos nosotros, les envío mi cariño y gratitud por siempre Con amor Julio Cow’s Head

- Julio Cabeza de Vaca Ruiz
What a grand fellow. All my great memories and moments of families together and the visits we had, I’m just flooded with the strength of our family love and history. So great full for the ties and kinship!!! I hate getting old...

- Douglas Pingree Romney
What a beautifully written obituary. I am most impressed with all Toby did throughout his life. Dear Phyllis, I have loved and admired you for so many years and my heart and prayers are with you. I have been blessed by your indomitable spirit, your joyful leadership and love of life and people. I think I honestly know how you feel at this moment because I have experienced it It is a feeling of pure, deep joy that someone you so dearly love has been released to go forth untethered by the frailties of this life.. I will be with you virtually as this impressive man is honored. on Friday. Loving you, Joan Peterson

- Joan Peterson
Tim, May your treasured memories and faith carry you through the earthly times when we so much miss those who go on before us. Wanted you and your family to know I was thinking of you. Susan

- Susan Tippets Peterson
Aunt Phyllis, Tim, Geoff, Greg, Allison, Matt and Mark, I am so grateful to have known, loved, and been loved by and mentored by Toby Pingree. UT was one of the truly great men of this world. Brett and I are so grateful for his example of loving and serving and being a force for good through his entire life. We are better for knowing him...and we appreciate the great tax advice too! Uncle Toby and Aunt Phyllis have been and always will be heroes of mine. Our love and prayers are with all of you. The obituary and tribute video were both so beautiful and brought tears to my eyes as I was again reminded of all the wonderful things Uncle Toby stood for and represented. We will miss him. ❤️ Love to you all!! Sara and Brett Graham

- Sara Graham
Dear Geoff, Greg, and family: Heartfelt best wishes to you all. Mr. Pingree had two amazing sons. May the circle be unbroken. Ernie and Diana

- Ernest Suarez
I think of Toby as one of the greatest mentors of my younger self, when he was my Bishop in Walnut Creek. We talked about a lot of issues in our times together, we didn’t always agree, but we understood each other. Sincere best wishes to Phyllis and the family.

- Gordon Cummings
Dear Greg, Geoff, and Pingree family-- My condolences on the passing of your wonderful father, whom I had the pleasure of meeting on a few occasions. With best wishes, Richard Olsen, Salt Lake City

- Richard D Olsen
Toby was a good man. He will be missed (I will miss him).

- Ian Bay
I'm so going to miss Toby. There are very few people in this world who can combine true faith with honest introspection and reflection. I admire Toby for his courage. He has been willing to honestly examine his faith and his religion while remaining committed. He was and is an authentic, real, genuine person. He and his wonderful wife Phyllis have been key influences in my life. I'm better for having been in his presence. My very deepest love to you Phyllis at this tender time. Chandra and I love you and Toby and are so sad for your loss.

- Eric Bergeson
My sincere condolences to your family. What a wonderful memorial for a remarkable man. I know my Dad thought so much of Toby. God bless

- Kris Hatfield
I loved Toby Pingree. He was a true Renaissance Man. As his former Bishop we had many lively discussions about gospel items and church issues. Toby was about 14 years older than me. One of my favorite memories of him - About 15 years ago we both competed in a AARP Triathlon. It was a shorter sprint triathlon. Toby was a good swimmer and I was awful. We were about even on the bike. I tried to catch him on the running portion but I could not. Toby dusted me. We laughed about this competition over the years. The world, our ward and us his friends are better off for knowing Toby. Our thoughts, prayers and love to Phyllis and the family. Rex Thornton

- Rex Thornton
Such a fascinating biography! We learned much more about Toby than we never knew! He was one of a kind and always kept us on our toes to see if we believed what we thought we believed. We'll miss his quick wit and his never-ending quest for the truth. We will miss him!

- Laurel and Tom Rohlfing
Dear Phyllis and family, This year has been difficult for you with the pandemic and illness of your husband and father. He has led a beautiful and full life with so many talents and experiences. I am so blessed to have had the opportunity to get acquainted with him. He will be remembered as one of the faithful members of our ward. I send my sympathy with your loss. Love, Charlotte

- Charlotte Thornton
Phyllis, I am so sorry for your loss. After reading about him,I realize that you and he shared a wonderful life together. Traveling and living so many places brought joy and many friends to you. You were always one of my favorite cousins and I enjoyed visiting at your home in Holladay. I also enjoyed your graduation from Olympus High School. May you find peace in knowing you will see Toby again and share an eternity of love. It is so good to be in contact with you again. Much love to you and your family. Patty Burbidge Stevens

- Patty Stevens
We loved Toby, and love Phyllis, and have enjoyed many times of searching dialogue with Toby about things spiritual and worldly. He was a great example of searching and learning and applying the "building" principles of life and love. He will be missed.

- Don and Sandra Allen