Lavinia "Lovey" Gardner Frahm

2022 ~ 2022

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Lavinia "Lovey" Gardner Frahm was born just after noon on October 8, 2022 and passed away in the arms of her parents in the early morning hours of October 11, 2022.

Nine months in the womb. Seventeen hours in labor. Three days in the NICU. Forever in our hearts. Rest well, dearest Lovey, our time with you was too short.

Lovey's conception -- eagerly awaited for 10+ years -- was an occasion of joy and gratitude. A one-in-a-thousand spontaneous pregnancy after fertility assistance efforts had failed to yield fruit. Born 8 pounds 13 ounces and 20.25 inches long, she sported her dad's chin, her mom's rosy cheeks, and a delightfully dark head of hair.

While in the womb, she would accompany her mother to regular yoga sessions and would often join in on the action. She was particularly prone to late night acrobatics that would thrill her dad and brother, while sometimes keeping her mom awake for far too long. In the spring of 2022, she spent a month in utero traveling with her parents and brother to Eastern Europe to help Ukrainian refugee families in need. In July, she joined the family in cheering on her brother at USA youth rock climbing nationals in Chicago.

Though Lovey's life was brief, her impact on those closest to her was profound. Here are three lessons Lovey taught us:

Lesson 1: Accept What's Given

We'd love to see our plans for Lovey come to fruition, but we've learned from our time with her that sometimes -- most of the time, maybe -- life resists our plans and chooses its own path. Of course this is sad. Deeply so. But we're learning to just accept that life is unfair at times. Lovey knows this most of all. Life is unfair, and there's no fighting it. Only accepting and responding with kindness and care to the grace of what we're given; even if it isn't the grace we want or deserve. Thank you, Lovey, for gracing our lives, however briefly.

Lesson 2: Resist Blame

At times of great suffering, we naturally seek someone or something to blame for our pain. Lovey's serene spirit taught us to resist this tendency. Blame only impedes our ability to embrace the grace of the present. Thank you, Lavinia, for freeing us from the burden of assigning blame for what we lack so we can better enjoy the abundance of what we have.

Lesson 3: Savor Each Second

Too easily we take for granted the time we're given. Lovey has forever reconfigured our sense of time. Nine months of body-stretching pregnancy felt an eternity until they were gone. Seventeen hours of love-filled labor are now unimaginably sacred. Three days in intensive care were unfairly fleeting, while also containing multiple lifetimes-worth of holy heartache and priceless bonding. Each second is precious. Lovey's seconds were far too few, but none were taken for granted. Thank you, Lavinia, for this priceless gift.

Lavinia is survived by her parents, Jennifer & Walker; her brother, Atticus; her grandparents Terri Gardner and Steve & Audrey Frahm; her great grandparents Charmian Taylor and Ruth Ann Gurr; and a host of aunts, uncles, cousins, and countless others who loved her completely before they had the chance to fully know her.

She was preceded in death by her grandfather, Dee Isaac Gardner, who passed as a result of ALS in 2019, and with whom she'll share a burial plot at Evergreen Cemetery in Springville. Few were more skilled at comforting a crying baby than Grandpa Gardner, and Lovey's family finds peace in knowing she'll be laid to rest by his side.

In lieu of flowers, the family asks that you donate to their personal fundraiser, which will help with medical costs and support a charitable fund established in Lovey's honor.


So very very sorry that you've lost your sweet baby temporarily. Our heart breaks for your whole family.

- Tod and Karen Workman

Gud gav och Gud tog tillbaka Välsignat vare Guds namn! Hennes själ var så vacker att hon endast behövde en kropp en kort tid för att kunna återvända till Fadern. Skickar min tankar med kärlek till er!

- Mona Carlsson

Very sorry for your loss. God’s grace over your family.

- Kathleen Grogg

I lost my firstborn child just minutes after she was born. No parent should have to bury their child. I will continue praying with a mother’s heart for Lovey’s family as the years go by.

- Kathleen Bachman

Jennifer, Walker, and Atticus: We were so, so saddened to hear the news of Lavinia's passing. Our hearts ache with and for you but also rejoice in her light and earthly life, brief though it was. Please know our very real thoughts, prayers, and hopes are with all of you at this profoundly difficult time. We love and admire you deeply. May the Lord bless you and keep you.

With Love,

The Durham

- George & Kathleen Durham family

Reading Lovey's life story absolutely brought me to tears. Thank you for sharing her with us. She is a perfect beautiful bundle. So very precious. Joe and I are keeping you all close to our hearts in this tender time. We love you.

- Whitney Hardie

I am so very sad for you all , hopefully another sibling will join you soon.

- Neile Parisi

I am so sorry! I had a stillborn girl in May and it is the absolute hardest thing I've ever gone through. My heart aches for you. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

- Becky Dunford

We are deeply saddened at your loss. Our prayers go out to you. If we can help you in any way, please let us know at 801_949_3549

Love Dennis and Cindy B Gurr

- Dennis and Cindy Gurr

Your sweet little Lovey is absolutely beautiful.
What a sweet name you gave your precious daughter.
A beautiful tribute to her in her obituary.
I’m truly sorry for your loss, my prayers are with you all.

- Edith Whitaker

Love you! And love Lovey! We are here for you now, next week, next month, next year and always. Never hesitate to reach out to us.

- Jeffrey Bigelow

Jennifer and Walker
Mike and I are so sorry for your loss. How heartbreaking. We know her Grandpa Dee will take excellent care of her until you can see her again. Our love to you

- Mike and Kathie Lawrence

Jennifer,Walker and Atticus,
Words cannot express the feeling of sorrow we have at this time. Thanks for Lovey’s obituary which was so beautifully crafted and contained such inspiring gems of inspiration. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
We love you.

- Gloria and Mike Nance

I am so sorry for your loss. She is beautiful!! Sending love and prayers to you and your family.

- Shantelle (booke) Tate

I am so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful understanding of grief and loss. Our prayers are with you and your whole family.

Shellie Gurr

- Shellie Gurr

Jennifer and Walker our hearts go out to you.
God bless Lovey and your family forever.
The Mc Donald family and all who have met you your mom and lovely family over the years.
God bless

- Jerry and Joanne mc donald

I am so sorry to hear of your loss

- Paul Parker

Walker, Jen, Addicus and the Gardner and Frahm Family,
We are soo sorry about Lovey! There are no words. May she be resting in Heaven with all the angels! I have been thinking of you and praying so much for the entire family and will continue to do so in the days and times ahead. The obituary about Lovey is so beautiful and uplifting in this time of sadness. May you continue to stay strong and know that we are all here for you, near and far. Wishing you peace, love, prayers, and hugs.
Warm Regards,
Kelly & Matt Moore

- Kelly & Matt Moore

You guys will be in my prayers.

- Estiven Sierra

I am just floored and heartbroken to hear this news. I pray that your faith and Family help propel you all through this tragedy. You have my heartfelt condolences.

- Scott Shockey